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What a gorgeous essay, Tanya!! Really beautiful! And you were able to somehow convey a complex situation with a lot of characters very simply and movingly without blaming anyone. Brava!

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Thank you so much, Alison! xoxo

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This is a beautiful piece, Tanya. So poignant and so concise. You’re able to conjure the clearest pictures and feelings by choosing the exactly right words to convey the meaning.

I’m moved and in awe.

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Oh, thank you so much, Meryl. That means a lot. xoxo

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Lovely stories, Tanya.

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Thank you so much, Joya! I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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Lovely essay. I also loved Fiddler on the Roof, such a an easy way to be Jewish. It’s funny -I loved the song, Sunrise Sunset, but I’ve associated it with aging not marriage, even as a kid. Such an easy way to grow older.

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Thanks for this, Tanya! A great model for how to write and also great to know more about you, since we have often been sharing intense pieces of our lives. As a historian, I often say that history is context and you have illustrated that so clearly here! I enjoyed it.

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Love this!

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Thank you, Jane! ❤️

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Wow… so brutally honest! True . Love it!

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Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it!

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Thank you. Love lyric essay.

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Thanks so much, Mark.

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Tanya, this is beautiful and I can hear your voice in my head as I read it silently. It's got a Vipassana quality to it, with the music box serving as the memory keeper. And, we have more in common than I knew before. Thank you for this piece. Deborah

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Thanks so much for this comment, Deborah. I appreciate it! So glad you enjoyed the piece.

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Thanks, Meta! It's true—there is a kind of bittersweet ease in the way the song acknowledges the passage of time. Such tenderness. I think for me it's about family—parents, children growing up, marriages coming together and, in my family's case, coming apart, then new family being formed. So glad you enjoyed it!

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Thanks so much, Lois! I'm so glad you enjoyed it. It's true—we do learn a lot about each other in this process!

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